The right to be WRONG!

We walk around in this life as big containers. Sometimes we bear flowers and some other times we could bear bombs. Repercussions of our own thrown bombs or flowers could frighten us so much. We'd eventually either choke on all the flowers we never sprinkle out or just suffer a big explosion for holding the bombs in for so long! Whether it's a bunch of roses or a mass destruction missile, what matters is that it is within us and somehow it could let itself out, eventually…

I was once told that a stupid question is the one we never ask out loud; either in fear of looking like fools or just in fear of saying something wrong. I recall it was in a business meeting when I heard that line, and the person sitting beside me whispered to me the words "Is he trying to say we're stupid people who ask no questions?" I believe this person didn't really grasp what the presenter intended to state, and that he felt offended just by a remote insinuation of an insult! What's kinda funny is; that person never really asked any questions during that meeting. Personally, I think all he did is fill himself with negative energy so as to avoid partaking. After the meeting was over, it came to my attention that some people would actually obstruct any chance of making a mistake even by merely asking a question just to preserve a false image of overstated flawlessness.

Now I'm sure most of us must've met someone like that. But the thing about such people is not just that they refrain from asking any question like in such situations to seem as if they know it all when nobody could possibly do. It's that they have this type of baseless arrogance that makes them unable to admit they could ever be wrong! It's the belief that they can't be like everybody else, and that at the end of the day they'll still be just another imperfect human being. Those people would always be uptight and unaccepting to any kind of criticism or feedback unless it's praise. They can never let anybody prove them wrong because they tend to be extremists about how they picture themselves; they're either icons or just losers! There's nothing in between that would keep a balance in case they're ever evidently mistaken.

It would sure be so hard to be around somebody like that. They'd probably either annoy the hell out of the people in their lives or just take it further by letting it affect and may be even end their personal affairs. I mean it can get really serious if a partner for instance keeps making mistakes and never admit they wronged their loved ones. Because, for one to admit they're wrong, it would most likely entail an apology, which apparently is something an "icon" wouldn't stoop to!

So they'd rather make a million lie, change the subject, defend themselves by being offensive, frame it to somebody else, may be even squeeze a couple of tears to gain any sympathy they can get, but never own up to their mistakes. They'd choose to live in denial and end up very lonely people who just ramble on stranded and endure it, instead of coming clean about a slip up. It seems that they dread that kind of honesty because it would threaten to put a fracture in their superhuman yet charade picture.

A person with such a difficulty ought to start weighing the damage brought about to their lives as a result of the mistaken belief of being an impeccable creature. A nice place to start repairing the damage is to honestly try to imagine someone that has never made a mistake in their life. Of course they'd realize it could be so hectic for someone to pretend to be perfect 24/7! That could help them loosen up and think that maybe it is ok for people to make mistakes sometimes. Another thing is to give things their actual size, because the predicament starts when a person just decides to make a big deal out of a minor and unimportant fault.

Also comparing our right and wrong and checking them against those of others every now and then could be practical, since nobody is right or wrong all the way, and maybe our senses only are not always the best judge. Because if we count on them only we might just shatter into a million pieces one day if someone or something could actually prove us wrong! It's as if we build up a mountain of falsehood and just watch it tumble down in a blink of an eye after the tiniest encounter with the truth.

To expect non-stop praise on each and everything we do is to accept being lied to at some point(s) along the way! And that's why a person needs to be surrounded by the type of people who have enough honesty to give constructive feedback no matter what. People should also stop thinking too much of the consequences of every little detail or how would people react because that would basically drive anybody crazy!

I believe everyone has the right to be a fool at times and that we all need to give the stupid and clueless person inside each one of us the chance. Certainly I don't mean to aim at looking stupid or ignorant, but what I'm saying is people should be ready to accept their mistakes or flaws without letting them become a self confidence killer. It is important to let that silly person inside us breath, because at some point that could be the only thing that proves we are loved for who we really are and not just the idyllic person we're killing ourselves to demonstrate.