We all look forward to summer holidays and spend a long time planning for them, may be even day dream of the sunny beach days for hours while we’re sitting down at work. When they actually begin we all feel like we’re light as if we gained wings to fly. We put aside anything that has to do with stress and replace it with relaxation and lightheartedness. The only thing we might think of is how much fun we can squeeze in our vacation period and how to enjoy it to the max. BUT! Sometimes some people would take it so far to the extent of not taking care of how they act and it’s really strange how people tend to act like a bad boy/girl on vacations in the name of having fun and being “cool.”
Meeting New People
Being around people is really nice, especially in summer. As they say “The more the merrier,” and all those summer trips, barbecues, cruises and days by the beach gain more flavor when there are many people to double the fun. Such activities and places can also make meeting new people the simplest thing. It’s very important for people to socialize and make new acquaintances. It could be very good if it happens during a vacation but sometimes people get things mixed up, and consider the newly met people closest friends although they just met! Others would even enter relationships so quickly without calculating any consequences. They’d go for the rush they get when they’re around someone from the opposite sex just to enjoy their company even if they know deep inside it’s gonna end the minute they set foot in their cars on the way back home. They willingly drag themselves and the other person into an unpleasant emotional mess, because they do it regardless of what they really want in a serious relationship. However, it’s really much worse if they do it when they’re already in one! So instead of all that people just need to make a simple decision, which is stick to what they need when it comes to relationships and save themselves the trouble that could be caused if they respond to the temporary temptations they might encounter.
About your partner
Vacations are the time when we take a break from many things, work, the everyday stressful life, crowded places. But the sad thing is; some feel like taking this break should include their significant other too! Although it’s healthy for partners to enjoy some independence every once in a while and get to practice their own activities, it shouldn’t be just for the sake of being away from the partner. It’s both selfish and uncaring for the other or for the relationship. Because it means that one of the two can’t be laid back around the other, and when fun is dead between couples it’s a serious indicator that the passion is fading which would eventually harm the relationship. Also worth mentioning is the fact that eastern guys would rather stay away from their spouses if they plan to have fun. Although they might not be planning for doing anything wrong or anything that would harm their relationship, there is some kinda concept about the married wife; that she is not to be taken to “the fun zone” as if it’s taboo for her to exist in! It’s as if they classify the wife as the woman who should stay in the “regular zone” where there’s no place for fun. The irony is, mostly Egyptian females think of marriage as the chance for freedom or the opportunity to explore the actual life they never got to experience, due to the very conservative upbringing methods their families used to raise them. It’s unfair to both the wife and the husband. It’s unfair to the wife because her hopes will all be gone, and for the husband because unconsciously or consciously he deprives himself of the good times he could spend with his spouse, in addition to gaining her resentment of his stand.
Strings ARE attached
One of the noticeable jokes people would make in summer vacations is the “just for fun” relationship. It’s the kind of relationship to which one or both partners enter, when they’re fully aware that they are not in it for real, thinking it would only be the momentarily fun they get and that is it, may be even fake feelings they don’t have just to live the moment! But the problem is that they never consider the things that will remain stuck in the back of their mind unconsciously. Logically speaking, any acquaintance we make and stay around for a while must have some kind of an effect on us. It must leave at least a slight memory that could be automatically retrieved any moment with or without our choice. And that would eventually lead a person to make comparisons when they decide to settle down in a relationship. Because somewhere there are memories of other people stored inside the person’s mind. Such comparisons are not necessarily wrong. However, if they were for the reason of reminiscing over those times with sorrow about the careless, free and on the go kinda fun, it sure would not be nice for the new partner.
Be your same self
What’s really annoying is a type of madness that happens during holidays. It’s the type that makes a person decide to change their identity and become somebody else other than who he/she actually is while socializing, and specifically when they meet new people. And it’s not because they’re scared of meeting a psycho killer or a criminal who could be disguised in a nice person’s character. Sadly it’s for other reasons. It’s like they leave their normal lives for a different one during vacation, where they can be things and people they want others to believe they are, for example; claiming to be rich or a relative of a celebrity in order to appeal to others from the opposite sex. It only makes people feel less about themselves to act like they’re somebody who’s in a higher rank, and all they do is go even crazier with such lies to feed the lack of self confidence or self respect they suffer from and sometimes to cover up for other lies! A better way to building relationships is simply honesty. That’s something some people need to practice sometimes, it will definitely boost their self esteem, ensure they build real strong relationships as well as protect and show respect to the other.
Screwing around is no fun
Chilling out and having fun during vacations is a must for a person in order to regain their appetite and energy for the everyday challenges. People would do a lot of things to feel good and spend nice times and it’s really fine. However, it’s just sick when a person thinks that being far from the daily normal life of the city makes it ok to make mistakes. Some do drugs and/or drink their brains out, some sleep around, and some would just hang around people with bad reputations as a form of adventure! But what they don’t see is that gradually, they start thinking that nobody has any self control and that all people are bad while the fact is there will always be good and bad. It’s their fault that they expose themselves to too much bad examples that they lose belief in the existence of good people. It would definitely hurt them and the other people in their lives, because doubt is gonna always be there when they deal with people.
A free of drama vacation
Summer vacations are the best time of the year for many people. And that’s a very good reason why it shouldn’t be the time people regret having later on after they go back to their normal lives because of what happened during it. People need to seek the good feeling they get when they do the right thing or when they refrain from doing something wrong. Also seeking the joy that simple things can provide rather than going miles for drastic and miscalculated temptations. For example; instead of getting high on drugs or driving so fast on highways, people could listen and dance to music, it’s really enough! We need to always remember; what happen on our current vacation are the things that are going to be our future memories, so let's make sure we fill it with things we will not regret remembering for the rest of our lives...
Cairo Elite - July 2010
